Tuesday, June 19, 2012

On Pride: Oh you did not just do that! edition

So while I was gone to a wonderful gay wedding in Banff, James was kind enough to comment on my On Pride post.  Isn't it amazing how the internet connects us. What really blows me away about his comment was he simultaneously proved and missed my point completely.  Also he had the balls to try and come into my place and attempt to slut shame me while managing to make a shit ton of assumptions and look like a total asshole.  So in the tradition of High Riding Bitches everywhere Imma sit poor anonymous James down and learn him something.

The point of the post was this.  Pride needs to service the needs of many disparate groups of individuals.   It happens every damn year, when a group of people who you are clearly associating with use the moral high ground to judge and shame others who were participating as less worthy of being part of this event.  Your kind get to complain ad nauseum about twinks in underwear, leather men and drag queens.  This year I decided in return I get to complain about all the fucking strollers and sweater vests.  This is my platform to point out that all those stuck up assholes are not any better than the deviants (a term I use lovingly) they are so dreadfully concerned and complaining about.

So was I being mean judgemental and unfair?  JESUS YES THATS THE POINT!!!!  It's not so fun when the sluts refuse to be shamed and fight back against some of the bullshit being slung their way.

As far as Pride goes, your welcome to come to the party but please do not bitch about the company! It pisses me off to no end that we never get to hear from these scandalous underwear wearing sluts daring to walk down a public street horrifying families and scarring proper homos for life.  Well I am one of those sluts (too fat these days to be a twink but man I can rock a pair of boxer briefs still)  and my opinion is just as valid as yours and your ilk and I think its high time someone came at this topic from the other-side.  

Using your personal sexual behaviours to set yourself apart from others and using it as a battering ram to beat others down does not make you much different than all of the homophobes out there we have been fighting for years.  Pulling the victim card right off the bat complaining that I am shaming others is exactly the point of the whole post.  You claim it isn't internalized homophobia but the things you have said and the assumptions your making about my life could be coming out of the mouths of any member of the Phelps clan.  I am just using the same tools tempered with some humour and and a dose of exaggeration. 

The moral high ground of these people is built on the shaky assumption that you are somehow living a better or more genuine life than me because you value monogamy.   I think its great when two people can find each other and make it work.  Love is such a rare creature and making it thrive can be a tricky balance.  I just got back from a fabulous wedding for two adorable gays who do happen to be monogamous.   I do not hate monogamy or those that choose it as long as they treat me with the same respect (which in this case they were not).   What I can not abide is when that choice to be monogamous is used as a platform to make your opinion or experience more valid or valuable than mine. I agree like most things morals are a matter of perspective. It seems however that only one perspective is welcome when dealing with the pride complainers and it certainly isn't mine.

The complainers talk about damaging the cause or it being "not what we are fighting for".  They are no more worthy of the benefits of the equality movement than I am.  That is the whole point of equality.  We all end up in the same boat regardless of whether you wear chaps or pleated slacks from old navy.

My comments could not be less counter-culture in fact they are a plea to celebrate the rich tapestry that is gay culture versus accepting the heternormative lifestyle as something that is somehow more valuable than what it is rapidly replacing.  Our culture is something we should cherish and nurture instead of cutting off the parts that some find unseemly.  Are you weak for going along with the masses?  I can't answer that.  Are you less interesting?  Most likely yes and no amount of orgies will ever fix that.

I don't recall asking for an x-rated pride.  I do not find men walking around in underwear and the occasional flash of an exposed breast or butt cheek to be x-rated.  In north america we have a very skewed view of the body that I generally feel is unhealthy and overly conservative.  I hope that pride is always a place that supports the body as the wonderful gift it is.  Also if I have to watch women breast feeding you can watch me in my ultra short, short shorts (your in luck because they make my ass look fabulous).  I hope that pride never loses its edge, its openness or its sense of play.  All things that could be argued as being "not family friendly".

James you make a lot of assumptions about the quality and content of my relationship with my fella.  Which means you probably don't read my blog at all or your not a very good reader.   Greg and I live a supportive, sex positive, body positive lifestyle.  I am so lucky to have both an incredible love live and a really amazing and occasionally filthy sex life the kind of which you probably wank off to in your wildest dreams.  I am sorry your love life sucks (oh noes! another cruel assumption).  You might find you have more fun when you remove the stick from your ass.

I do love how you tried to use my sex life as a weapon to earn some cheap points but you clearly chose the wrong spot to insert yourself.  It was the wrong tool for the wrong hole.  Don't worry James it happens to all of us from time to time.  

Lastly I will have you know, my orgy's are always wonderful and well attended.   I pride myself on being a very, very good host. Martha Stewart has nothing on me.  I doubt you will get an invite however.  I may be easy but I do have some taste.


James said...

You're right and I was judgemental and out of line with what I wrote. You're right, I don't kno you but reading thru your posts I can tell you are confident and happy. I can only hope to one day be as confident and happy of you before my time runs out.

Aaron said...

Thank you James. I enjoyed the dialogue. I hope you find your happy place.